tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post3378124725475639444..comments2024-03-22T07:35:09.284-07:00Comments on Books in the City: Review: An Accidental Mother by Katherine Anne KindredBooksnychttp://www.blogger.com/profile/11197753056299399065noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-78041134952161928062011-10-17T18:09:43.968-07:002011-10-17T18:09:43.968-07:00This subject hits close to home because I have a s...This subject hits close to home because I have a stepdaughter. I know that if something were to happen to my husband or we were to split up, Ally could be out of my life. It is a hard pill to swallow when it is a child you love and have helped to raise.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-21598373340239388532011-10-17T14:15:26.478-07:002011-10-17T14:15:26.478-07:00I picked this one up at BEA but haven't gotten...I picked this one up at BEA but haven't gotten to it yet. I think I'll relate to it; before I married my second husband and officially became a stepmother, I was in a similar position with his kids. I'm now a bit more curious about Katherine's relationship with the daughter. It makes sense to me that there would be boundaries because her mother WAS in the picture, but that doesn't have to preclude an attachment. Thanks for the review!Florindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09789402061034734894noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-86328053426985909242011-10-16T17:33:55.422-07:002011-10-16T17:33:55.422-07:00I think this would be such a difficult situation …...I think this would be such a difficult situation … for her and for Michael. And I think your critique of the book is well founded.Jennershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08044537551139633301noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-47405987265870666872011-10-16T16:12:57.671-07:002011-10-16T16:12:57.671-07:00I have been intrigued by this book. As a fellow w...I have been intrigued by this book. As a fellow woman who doesn't wnat to have kids, I used to really worry about this situation when dating (thank God, found a BF who's on the same page as me!) And having had stepparents, and having also fallen completely in love with my nanny charges back in college, I do really identify with Katherine, and yet I think that's exactly what stops me from picking this book up. As much as I do like sad books, I think this one would just be too heartbreaking for me.Carin Siegfriedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07278383926500248048noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-65106225009254287982011-10-16T12:34:11.980-07:002011-10-16T12:34:11.980-07:00There are times when the reality is that adults ne...There are times when the reality is that adults need to understand that they need to stick together if they expect or want the kid/s to remain a part of their lives. I think this is only even more true for a child and parent who have been attempting a remarriage. Parents who gave or received rejection by another parent of their offspring are often even less inclined to lose their affection with another adult who also wants to choose the child/ren over the adult relationship. i say this as someone who has tried it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-25867620847044534392011-10-16T10:28:35.246-07:002011-10-16T10:28:35.246-07:00It does seem as though the author might have had m...It does seem as though the author might have had more of a connection with Elizabeth, perhaps not quite the same as she had with Michael, but you wouldn't expect a disconnect.Lisahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05554217416500328610noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-46490161547664227422011-10-16T09:56:12.843-07:002011-10-16T09:56:12.843-07:00Great review, I hadn't heard of this book befo...Great review, I hadn't heard of this book before, but you definitely made me want to read it.(Diane) bookchickdihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16640913682123489734noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-14672473270774298032011-10-16T09:50:27.734-07:002011-10-16T09:50:27.734-07:00This sounds like a difficult read. My parents divo...This sounds like a difficult read. My parents divorced when I was 3 and it was always hard when they would break up with their new boyfriend or girlfriend, for everyone involved. Ugg, divorce!Amusedhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12657337249497691366noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-69765562626490447802011-10-15T23:04:34.041-07:002011-10-15T23:04:34.041-07:00Sounds an emotional roller coaster. Somewhat simil...Sounds an emotional roller coaster. Somewhat similar situation to what I had to face when a child from my orphanage was taken away by his mother after I had looked after him from 3 months to five years. Never saw the child again. It was very tough for a long while.Mysticahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10941269615559681014noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-45553567278827537822011-10-15T17:56:23.788-07:002011-10-15T17:56:23.788-07:00I'm thinking she developed such a stronger bon...I'm thinking she developed such a stronger bond with Michael because she felt like he needed her more whereas Elizabeth already had another mother figure that she would have had to compete for and would never really replace. Michael's father sounds selfish. Would be interested in his "side". So many parents do things like that and don't put their children's needs first. It's a shame!Jennyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14128837662718618636noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-32484479659320882072011-10-15T14:10:59.562-07:002011-10-15T14:10:59.562-07:00Yes - definitely a wake-up call for divorced paren...Yes - definitely a wake-up call for divorced parents and those who are in relationships with divorced parents.Booksnychttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11197753056299399065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3206029274559460902.post-39369482157660481172011-10-15T13:49:37.182-07:002011-10-15T13:49:37.182-07:00I'm anxious to read this book, even though it ...I'm anxious to read this book, even though it sounds heartbreaking. It sounds like it should be a wake-up call to divorced parents.bermudaonionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10726401178972099557noreply@blogger.com